Deal Malaika,I have a very weird situation that I need help, or at least some advice on it. I have been dating this guy for 8 months and at first everything was fine, you know we go out to movies, dance, dinner and have fun. I am a hard working, confident, got my own and sexy woman. Now that the holidays are coming he wants me to meet his mother and grand mother, I should be happy right? WRONG!
He came over to my house last week and sat me down to inform me that I need to lose some weight before Christmas if I want to me his family. I really thought he was joking because I never asked to meet his family, and because if my weight is an issue why date me?
So I was confiding this in one of his friend, yes maybe I was wrong but I needed to talk to someone who knows him. His friend said that he would be proud to take me to his family and that he always felt that his friend was lucky to have a good woman and beautiful like me. So do you think it's my man or his family that have the issues?
Chunky
Dearest Chunky,
If you asked me who has the issue, I would say YOU DO. Why you ask? Because now you are starting to doubt yourself, or are you? Girl if you know you got it going on and you look good, then let me say this, men will come and go, you have to be with your for life, feel me? If he doesn't want you to meet his family unless you lose weight, how about dropping him? You'll lose that much weight real quick, does the friend look cute?
All seriousness, the issue is obviously with him and his family, because if his family cares more about your looks than how you treat him, then that's on them, and if he cares more about your looks than how you treat him, then that's on him. Do what feels right for YOU.
Are you healthy? Do you like what you see in the mirror? Then you have your answer!
Enjoy the Holidays!
If you asked me who has the issue, I would say YOU DO. Why you ask? Because now you are starting to doubt yourself, or are you? Girl if you know you got it going on and you look good, then let me say this, men will come and go, you have to be with your for life, feel me? If he doesn't want you to meet his family unless you lose weight, how about dropping him? You'll lose that much weight real quick, does the friend look cute?
All seriousness, the issue is obviously with him and his family, because if his family cares more about your looks than how you treat him, then that's on them, and if he cares more about your looks than how you treat him, then that's on him. Do what feels right for YOU.
Are you healthy? Do you like what you see in the mirror? Then you have your answer!
Enjoy the Holidays!
naaahhh... you alright gal. Tell him he can take you the way you are or hit the highway. If his family hates Big Gals thats his problem. I honestly like my woman somewhat like Beyonce, but would never put her on a spot for it. After all, although im hot-bodied, I am still not drop-dead gorgeous or Mr. Universe. HE should take you as you are or take someone else. There are many Mr Rights out there!